Just because you’re getting divorced doesn’t mean you have to go through a drawn-out legal battle with your spouse. It may seem like an inevitability if you and your spouse don’t agree on how to disentangle your lives from one another. Critical issues like how to split up your assets and your debts could be a source of contention. You may also find yourself disagreeing about things such as terms of child custody and visitation.
If you believe there is any possibility of you finding a compromise with your ex regarding those terms, you should seriously consider mediation instead of a protracted confrontation in court. There are many benefits to mediation, not the least of which is that it allows you to file for an uncontested divorce, which is much faster, more affordable and private than a traditional court-based divorce.
Mediation gives you more control over the outcome of your divorce
All too often, neither spouse walks away from a divorce feeling happy with the result. When you have no authority to set any of the terms, your entire future is seemingly in the hands of a stranger.
Mediation, when successful, lets you and your spouse set each and every term of your divorce, from who stays in the family house to splitting up your retirement accounts. You can compromise on the matters that you care less about to ensure success on issues that are the most important to you.
Mediation can make divorce easier on your children
Divorce can be hard on children, especially when emotions are high. It can also be difficult for children to stand up and speak in a court setting. Even if they discuss their preferences with a judge in chambers, the whole process can add to the trauma of the split and make the children involved feel like they have to pick one parent over the other.
Mediation protects your children from much of that fallout because you won’t have to call on them to speak up in court. It can also help you find common ground with your ex. It can be challenging to work with your spouse during a divorce, but mediation can provide a solid foundation for a healthy future relationship if you have minor children.
Mediation helps you keep your divorce private
Anything you say in open court becomes public record. That means that testimony about cheating and other issues from your marriage could come back to hurt you or your ex in the future. It can also be a source of embarrassment for your family and potential future problems for your children.
Mediation offers a much more private way for you and your spouse to settle the terms of your divorce. Instead of arguing in court for the upper hand, you can work with one another to find compromises that work for everyone involved. Instead of court records containing all of your dirty laundry, instead, they’ll have documents setting the terms for your uncontested divorce.